The DH and I just celebrated our thirty-ninth
wedding anniversary (we’ve been together for over forty years). That’s quite a
milestone…fully two-thirds of my life here on earth.
I knew he was the one – the soul-mate we all
believe is the other half of ourselves – almost from the beginning. He was
funny (still is) and charming (when he chooses to be) and he has a huge heart
(but don’t tell anyone I said that…he’ll deny it). He rode a motorcycle (still
does) and my mother called him “a bad boy”, so unlike anyone I’d ever known – I
was quite sheltered most of my life (you know what I’m talking about…so many
rules about what I could and couldn’t do, Catholic school, who I could be
friends with…the whole bit and believe me when I say, she was not happy when we
started dating, but she came around – eventually).
As we’re wont to do, we reminisce, and believe me,
there’s a lot to reminisce about – our memorable first date, our wedding (he
was so nervous!), the birth of our son, our epic journey when we moved from New
Jersey to Arizona in an old, beat-up station wagon with a not quite eighteen
month old and a 95 pound German shepherd, dragging all our worldly possessions
behind us in a U-haul (and hit a blizzard just outside of Albuquerque!). We had
no jobs, and a small amount of money in our pockets, but we had faith in
ourselves and each other and we were determined to succeed (plus, don’t ever
tell me I can’t do something…I’ll do it just to prove you wrong…I’m a bit
stubborn that way), two hip replacements (his, not mine), and other medical situations.
Can he drive me crazy? Oh, you bet, but I'm sure I drive him crazy, too (we've had lots of practice). Does he still make me laugh? That would be a big, fat yes. All the time. Does he understand me? Yeah, he does, probably better than I do myself sometimes. That's part of the magic in being together for so long.
We’ve done a lot of growing in the past forty-something
years. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s always been worth it, and you know,
I wouldn’t want to do it with anyone else. Happy Anniversary, honey!
Until
next time, remember to spread kindness wherever you go.
Marie